Motherhood is undoubtedly not an easy job. There are times when we are riddled with guilt about our ability to take care of our children. This guilt is amplified in working moms. However, now is the time to reframe your thoughts. Start viewing your work as a means of providing your family, and as an opportunity to educate your children about doing awesome stuff, apart from being their super-cool mama! 

With that being said, if you are a working mama wondering how to spend quality time with your children, here are some ways to do it. 

Prioritize Your Tasks

Knowing what requires your attention the most at the moment can take some stress off of your plate. While it may not seem so easy, learning to prioritize is a skill that every one of us should develop regardless of being a mother or not. There will be times when you may not know what to put first. When you find yourself at a crossroad, remember the hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) that says, “The best of you is he who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to my family” (Mishkat al-Masabih 3252, 3253). 

Planning ahead and making a list of things that need to be done within a week can definitely help in prioritizing tasks. However, emergencies are unavoidable and will definitely pop up in work and family. And when they do, seek support from your spouse and the rest of your family.  

Qur’an and Hadith Nights

Children are the greatest amanah given to us by Allah subhaanahu wa ta’aala. Hence, it is our responsibility to ensure they are raised right. Every one of us is answerable to Allah subhaanahu wa ta’aala on the Day of Qiyamah when we will be questioned about all that we were entrusted with, including our children.

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Spend at least half an hour a day before bedtime to inculcate Islamic morals and virtues by reading and pondering over a verse or two from the Qur’an or by reflecting on ahadith. By doing this, you are spending quality time while pleasing Allah subhaanahu wa ta’aala. We know from ahadith that when a group of people gather to remember Allah subhaanahu wa ta’aala, the angels surround them and Allah subhaanahu wa ta’aala envelops them in His mercy. Abu Hurairah and Abu Sa’id Al-Khudri (May Allah be pleased with them) have reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) has said, “When a group of people assemble for the remembrance of Allah, the angels surround them (with their wings), (Allah’s) mercy envelops them, Sakinah, or tranquility descends upon them and Allah makes a mention of them before those who are near Him” (Riyad as-Salihin 1448).

Being a working mom does not have to prevent you from instilling spiritual values in your children. Imagine being in the company of angels as you spend valuable time with each other!

Be Present in the Moments You Spend Together

It is always quality over quantity. Not the other way round. No matter how much or little time you spend with your children, ensure that the moments count. Put away any source of distraction, especially your phones. Even if you are able to spend just an hour a day, silence your phones during this time. Lend your ears to everything your children have to say and pay full attention. This will help build their confidence in trusting you. Parents who actively listen raise children who grow up to be confident adults. 

When a child knows they can rely on their parents for anything and everything, the chances of them admitting their mistakes and shortcomings are high. It also makes them less susceptible to peer pressure.

The world we live in today is full of fitnah. The only way to combat it is by being present during the time we spend with them. During this time, children should be taught the practices in the sunnah and the ways they can be applied to everyday life. When a strong Islamic foundation is laid at home, the teachings become a shield that protects them from all the fitnah we are constantly surrounded by. 

Get Them Involved in Your Routine

Young children love any activity that makes them feel involved. The easiest way to spend quality time with your kids is to get them to help you with age appropriate chores. If you are cooking, ask them to grab veggies from the fridge, or mix in ingredients in the pot. Small activities like these will have a great impact on your bonding. By getting them involved, you are showing them that they can be trusted. And this in turn makes them feel loved. While it is common for older children to dislike doing chores, you can still make them feel loved and involved by asking about their day and telling them about yours. Older children tend to feel more involved if you ask for their opinion in simple matters as you would to an adult. 

Chores are not the only way to make children feel involved. Many women love skin-care (as you should!). While skin-care may not be ideal for young children, it definitely is for older children. Every time you make time for skin-care, get your children their very own face masks and have a spa day at home as you chat away about anything and everything. When children get enough emotional stimulation from parents, they are less likely to look for it in other people. Remember, an emotionally fulfilled child is an emotionally stable adult. 

Get Yourself Involved in Their Routine

The life of a student mostly revolves around school. As grades progress, so does the academic pressure. It is common for students to make little to no time for their hobbies. This is when you should step up. As a working mama, a break is essential for you as well to avoid a burnout too often. While it may not be possible for a student to take a break from their academic demands everyday, it is ideal to take a break at least once a week. During this day, talk to them about their hobbies and get yourself involved. 

On the days when the academic demands must be met, take some time off your schedule and help them with their work. Research suggests that children who receive help from their parents tend to become more successful in academics and later in life. 

Take a Break When Things Get Overwhelming

Juggling work and family can be quite exhausting. There will be times when you will inevitably end up having a burnout.  While it cannot be prevented at all instances, you can prevent it from happening too often. The key to do that is to look for signs. When you spot yourself going through any sign of a burnout, that is your body’s cue to take a break. Pushing through it any further will only do more harm than good. 

When things get overwhelming, seek support from your spouse and the rest of your family to look after the kids, grab a cup of your favorite drink and go on a walk. Look around, take a deep breath and absorb every little detail nature has to offer. Once you have managed to declutter that chaotic brain of yours, go back to the kids and spend time with them. 

A happy mama raises happy kids. This is something every mother, especially working moms should keep in mind. Because children do not understand that our reactions do not have much to do with them, rather, a lot more to do with all that we have to constantly juggle with. Hence, it is up to us to ensure we don’t end up harming them emotionally due to everything we are dealing with. 

Society may make you feel like a selfish mother for wanting to take a break. You are human too, regardless of being a mother or not. And every human needs a break after a long week full of demands from work and family.

Gain Control of How you Educate your Children

Working parents face a plethora of challenges in managing their children’s academics and their work priorities. If you are considering an online school for your child because you work from home, or your spouse works from home, then kudos, that’s a wonderful idea! Online learning is especially beneficial for parents who work from home. The flexible schedules provided by online schools allow parents to schedule their day around their children’s schedules. 

When you are a working parent, spending time to instill Islamic values may not be so easy, which is where an online Islamic school comes into play. This is just what you need to meet your children’s academic and Islamic needs. 

However, finding one may not be so easy. When choosing an online Islamic school, it’s essential to consider factors such as the alignment of the curriculum with authentic Islamic values, the clarity and comprehensibility of the learning materials, and other aspects that ensure a holistic and enriching educational experience. Al-Huda Global School is the right place to go if you want all those boxes ticked. At Al-Huda Global, we strive to provide students with knowledge that is Islamically and academically fulfilling. The syllabus here is designed to cater to the needs of every student. With our flexible schedules and synchronous live classes, we ensure the learning that takes place lasts for a lifetime. So consider giving online schooling a shot, and it works, can there be anything more wonderful?

Your Key Takeaways

No two mothers are the same. Every one of us is dealing with a struggle of our own. The moment you stop comparing yourself with other mothers who seem to “have it all under control”, you’ll find yourself gradually letting go of that mommy guilt which will help you spend more quality time with your children. Working moms or not, any mother who cares about her children and nurtures them in the right way, is among those who are doing a wonderful job at parenting! 

By following these tips and ideas, working moms might be able to strike a fulfilling balance between their responsibilities and time with their children. Take the first step today, and watch your relationship with your children flourish, In sha Allah. Remember, the home is nurtured because of you, so nurture yourself!